Quick to Outrage

Concept: A narcissist’s insecurities are so deep and broad that there are innumerable threats of exposure in the world. Given that the narcissist’s insecurities are sensitive and quick to break down with the most minor contradictions, defenses are also equally quick and fierce. Those in the narcissist’s life are prone to “walk on eggshells” because they know well the consequences of upsetting the narcissist they’d rather not face.

Testing someone who you suspect of narcissism: Disagree with the suspected narcissist’s point of view or tell them no and watch their reaction. Look for an outburst or other adverse reaction.

Examples:

“Shut up! I don’t care if you’re hungry. Mommy’s dealing with something right now.”
“You cheated! And I know you did because that’s the only way you’d ever beat me.”
“You’re not really sick! You just don’t want to do it because you don’t care about me. I want a divorce!”

Advice: Narcissists tend to react without thinking and place few limits on their behavior, so it takes little time to act with outrage at the slightest threat to their self-esteem. A person who experiences outrage without warning is a dangerous person without natural limits on their behavior and likely to abuse others.

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