Concept: Narcissists excel at hiding information and particularly the motivations behind their abuse. As such, it often takes a discerning mind to unravel the truth about narcissists. One technique is to test the narcissist by providing information (whether accurate or not) that the narcissist could use for shaming. If the narcissist uses the information to put down the victim, then the narcissist provides evidence of their condition.
How this helps, and the opposite hurts: Testing puts a recovering victim into the role of a scientist testing a hypothesis. It’s an objective method and can have a staggering positive effect when it confirms the theory, using the narcissist’s own tendencies to provide incriminating evidence. Refusing to test isn’t necessarily harmful but using it can make discovery happen sooner.
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Advice: You’ll want to be careful when using false information. If it’s too obvious or the narcissist is highly intelligent, it could have negative consequences, such as using a lie to reinforce a smear campaign. If you’re concerned about this, you can always give a fact, so long as the benefit of testing exceeds the harm of the information getting out.
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